You Are Worthy

"You’ll have moments when you feel like a lion, and moments when you feel like a mouse. Just know that no matter how you feel, you still have a heartbeat and a soul worthy of love, so learn to roar even when you feel small, because you are more than the feelings you may have." - T.B. LaBerge

Remember the old Saturday Night Live skit, Wayne's World, that also became a movie in the 90's? In it, the characters Wayne and Garth would often bow down to others in their presence, chanting "We're not worthy" over and over again, as they compared themselves to those they felt were more famous, more skillful, more accomplished, or more successful.

Often we compare ourselves to others in the same way. I mean, have you ever compared yourself to someone else and came out exactly even? Maybe so, but likely we come out either worse than or better than that person. More often, however, we compare ourselves to others in relation to something that they do better than you. Invariably, that lowers our self-esteem. We then diminish ourselves in our own mind as we tell ourselves "we are not worthy."

Think about this example: If I took out a $100 bill and offered it to you...would you want it? Of course you would. What if I took that same $100 bill and crumpled it into a ball, and offered it to you again...would you still want it? I would assume you would. What if I took that crumpled up $100 bill and threw it on the floor, stepped on it a few times and squished it with my foot, jumped up-and-down on it and kicked it around a little bit, then picked it up and offered it to you again...would you want it now? I would think so...DO YOU KNOW WHY? Because no matter what I had put that bill through...in the end it is still worth $100. It doesn't lose its value when it was in a crunch, knocked down, stepped on or kicked around. The same goes for YOU.

We all go through tough times, we feel like life put us down, kicks us around, or puts us in a bind. Through it all we never lose our VALUE. We are all valuable. We are all worthy. It is important to remind yourself:  You are enough. No one needs to believe in you, but you. Learn to seek connection with others, not validation from others. No amount of attention will be enough unless you validate & love yourself. Create your own space. We need to work on strengthening our mindset, building up our self-esteem, and solidifying our belief in ourselves and our strengths and abilities.

All of us go through periods where we don't recognize our own self-worth. You may even have a positive attitude and outlook on things, and maybe even a relatively healthy self-confidence in yourself. But if you've ever held yourself back from doing something that you've 'said' you really wanted to achieve or do, like: writing a book, telling your story, creating a song, writing a screenplay or developing a personal blog. Or maybe you have been wanting to start your own business, pursue a side-gig, or go for that elevated job opening. 

Whatever the situation was, you had some goal or achievement that you truly desired, but you stopped yourself short. Maybe you over-thought the situation. Maybe you let fear, uncertainty or doubt creep in. Maybe you began to tell yourself that you weren't ready enough, smart enough, talented enough, strong enough, good enough, deserving enough. 

Those are all times when we aren't seeing our own worth. If anything, THAT is what needs to stop. Stop giving in and giving up. Believe in yourself and your dreams and goals. Believe you deserve to achieve them, and believe that you can and will achieve them. There may always be someone who doesn't believe in you, and doesn't see your worth. Don't let that 'someone' be you.

You are worthy. You are enough. You are deserving. You are the only version of "you" to ever exist in the universe. You are great. You are powerful. You are special. You deserve to feel like you can take on the world, and that you are worthy just as you are. Know who you are and know it's enough. Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is believing you're worthy of the trip.  

Make today great!

Curtis

"Be confused, it’s where you begin to learn new things. Be broken, it’s where you begin to heal. Be frustrated, it’s where you start to make more authentic decisions. Be sad, because if we are brave enough we can hear our heart’s wisdom through it. Be whatever you are right now. No more hiding. You are worthy, always." - S.C. Lourie