What's Holding You Back?

"The only thing that's holding you back, is the way you're thinking." - Steve Vai

 

What is holding you back? That is the question you need to answer. You need to dig deep into this. If you identify the what and the why, the how will come.

 

So what is it? Your subconscious mind? Feeling unworthy or Impostor syndrome? Fear of failure? Inability to take action? There is always something conflicting within ourselves that causes us to resist or hold back and causes us to procrastinate. Find a way to eliminate or fill the need so you can move on.

 

If we buy into these and believe them, we will likely hold back or quit pursuing our goals and dreams. We get caught up with the feeling that we cannot do it or don't know how to.

 

We need to get moving and set things in motion. We don't have to know everything. We don't have to have all the answers. We just need to start, and "the how" will show up. Take action and get moving. It's not who we believe we are that holds us back; it's what we think we aren't. Let go of everything that is holding you back. Make the decision and do it.

 

You have to be honest with yourself and genuine to yourself. Look deep inside. What is the root cause? Identify what triggers you and sets you down the wrong path. Take ownership of your actions. Look at where you are and where you want to be. Open your eyes and see things as they really are. Don't settle for mediocrity. Don't settle for less than you can be. You have to understand yourself better to understand others better.

 

Be honest with yourself. We all tend to lie to ourselves. We lie about our life about what we want or don't want. Because we fear not accomplishing it. We say everything is great and acceptable. But we may be unhappy with several areas of our life but unwilling to do anything about them. What is the story you are telling yourself and others about why things are the way they are?

 

Take back your control. Why do you really want in life? Where are you now, and where do you want to be? What can you do to close the gap?

 

Where are you placing blame? Your parents? Your conditions? Your surroundings? Other people? Stop blaming other people. Stop comparing yourself to others. Stop waiting for things to be perfect. Stop needing others' approval or permission. Stop expecting instant gratification and results. Stop confusing activity with productivity. Stop holding on to things you need to let go of.

 

Realize your potential. Know your own value and know your worth. Realize you are not alone and don't need to do everything yourself. Ask for help, for guidance. Reach out to others for advice.

 

Step out of your comfort zone. Get comfortable being uncomfortable. Lean into uncertainty. Take educated risks. It's okay to be vulnerable and be yourself.

 

Focus on the positive. Focus on your strengths. Focus on what inspires you motivates you, and drives you. Choose to take action! Choose to start now!

 

Make today great!

Curtis

 

"The only person who is truly holding you back is you. No more excuses. It's time to change. It's time to live life at a new level." - Tony Robbins